The Fastest Way To Lose Control Over Your Life (Don't Do This)

Living by your own rules and having control over your own life is very important for a personal growth mindset. Sometimes you may care more about what others think about you than how you perceive yourself. And that's not good.

I want to share with you what I think is the fastest way to lose control over your own life. So, whatever you do, make sure you are not doing what I'm about to explain because that will slow you down like nothing else.

What Is The Fastest Way To Lose Control Over Your Own Life?

The fastest way to lose control over your life is caring about what other people think about you. It is as simple as that. When your mindset revolves around how other people are perceiving you, you are giving all of your power away.

Now let me explain why this happens. This is quite common when you have a significant other. When you are in love, there's the tendency to become obsessed with what the other person is thinking about you.

However, this situation also shows up in our work environment and with family and friends. This is because we tend to care a lot about how other people perceive us.

What Focusing On Other People's Opinion Of You Does To Your Power And Control

Now what is vital for you to acknowledge here is this: you can only focus on one topic at a time. You cannot focus on what is important for you, while you are worried about how other people are perceiving you.

You can only ever focus on one or another at a given time. The more you worry about how other people are perceiving you, the less in touch you will be with yourself. It can make you less concerned about your own desires and the things you find essential to you.

When you transfer your consciousness to worrying if another person perceives you in the wrong way, you give away your power. And other people's opinions are only a mere reflection of your inner-state. And because you are worried about your own flaws, it is more likely that other people will also focus on your flaws.

So, not only do you give your power away, but you are aligning with the reality where this is your actual experience. It is a clear case of double trouble.

You are losing control over your life by focusing on people's opinions of you. Besides, you are creating external circumstances that reflect the fact that you are losing control over your life back to you. And that's how you get the snowball effect: the more you notice that other people are noticing your flaws, the more you will experience exactly that, and the more exposed you will feel.

How Can You Stop Losing Control Of Your Life?

The secret is really in its effortlessness: you need to quit focusing and worrying about how other people perceive you. You should turn the focus inwards. Remind yourself that how others perceive you is none of your business. What truly matters is how you see yourself.

I guarantee that whatever worries you had about how others perceive you were created inside yourself. The root cause of your anxiety is that you perceived yourself in a particular way. So, you became worried that other people were seeing it as well, while you were trying to hide it.


The truth is; how you perceive yourself is how others will perceive you. Instead of worrying about how other people are regarding you, work on reshaping your own perception of yourself.

This perception should align with who you want to become. You should focus on becoming your best version. And as a result of this, other people will notice your positive transformation.

If you want to dig further in the step-by-step process to work on your inner-perception about yourself, I dive deeper into this subject in this presentation of The Holistic Mindset method. Here I share with you a unique mindset method that combines mental, emotional, spiritual and biological intelligence, so you can live up to your full potential in all areas of your life.

Click here to watch the full presentation on how to upgrade your mindset

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